What happened to the family?

Technology has expanded the divide between the family relationships, many conclude that this divide is growing and that relationships with people’s families will diminish slowly. However I valued the opinion from three different articles that all explained that these causes are from maybe the parents, the children or even the era.


Jim Taylor explains what people are lacking in this area by targeting the children as the victims. He believes by children being more focused on their devices whether it is games or the television has found that it limits the children capacity to talk with the parents. A further study improving that working parents arrived home after work but their children were so immersed in the technology that the parent was greeted only 30 percent of the time while 50 percent ignored.

‘Parents are the ones who ultimately make the decisions concerning the use of technology at home, and these crucial rules have important implications for the family dynamic.’ – Joanne Orlando

Joanne Orlando from the Sydney Morning Herald targeted parents for this reason even though she admitted that once the television did bring everyone together but now due to so many devices every one spreads out. It is the parents final say on things and how to discipline their children and if that meant how much devices that bought around the house that all connect to the internet creating this isolation.

‘The increasing ways we are using technology in isolation from one another is reflected by the latest figures from Britain’s communications regulator, Ofcom. A recent study found that for the first time children aged between 12 and 15 are spending as much time online as they are watching television, about 17 hours a week for each.’ – Joanne Orlando

A further story to back this up is an article by Kate Goodin on the parenting website that talked about a family that was so addicted to the devices that it took so long for the parents to realize what had happened. It was the parents fault for being so consumed in the devices that they even forgot to make food for their children and this article that focused on the family by Matt Richtel article which Kate Goodin took from back in 2010. The time of 2010 did not have as many devices as now but showed the future to come.

‘The crux of the article is about how the use of technology actually makes us worse at multitasking, not better. If you’ve got your Facebook, email, Twitter, web surfing and Skype windows open all at once, well, only one of those things can actually hold your full attention. While the human brain is wired to adapt to the new way we receive information — in short bursts — only about 3 percent of the population — called “supertaskers” — can handle multiple streams of information.’ – Kate Goodin

It seems that technology in a way has become the major baby sitter for children to be so occupied with. ‘We must understand that the child will interpret this as meaning they should use technology to be quiet and disconnected from family activities happening around them.’ (Joanne Orlando)

However this seems to be a case of ‘Monkey See Monkey Do’ as at times the parents are the ones who show the behaviour which the children pick up on and follow. This can also back lash at parents as children’s sense of superiority and no respect for their own parent’s authority can lead them to not understand the reality behind the internet.

Source (Good little change up to show a family that drives off the internet/Vine)

Jim Taylor goes on to make a point about parents being at risk of anxiety or apprehension towards the technology because, ‘they may be unwilling to assert themselves in their children’s technological lives.’ Technology seems to place the parents and children at more of a risk mentally rather than physically.

There are always rules and regulations within these areas however if the parents are the ones that give the children those devices that must educate them on what is and what to do. Even though parents might be as consumed as the children something must break in order to fix the family bonds. Though children themselves can be liable due to respect and authority to listen to their parents rather than isolate themselves towards everything. In the end it is the family that must all choose for themselves how to work around the internet and their relationships because other things can also tie in to this behaviour.

‘Because everyone is so busy with work, school, and extracurricular activities, there’s less time for families to spend together. At technology to the mix and it only gets worse. It’s gotten to the point where it seems like parents and children are emailing and texting each other more than they’re talking—even when they’re at home together!’ – Jim Taylor


3 thoughts on “What happened to the family?

  1. Love the points that you raise here!
    We’re all to quick to judge and blame poor technology use on the children however we rarely look to how their parents are using it in front of them. And like the old saying says, a childs mind is like a sponge, so if they see their parents attached to their phone, they’re going to assume this is the norm!
    Nice one!

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